A lot of my couples opt to write and read their own vows, but they also want to say “I do.” So after they read their vows to each other, then I read one of the vow selections in the form of a question, and they just reply, “I do.” 🙂

Thanks for your question, Carolyn! Does the couple want you to do the traditional vows as well? Or: are you mandated by your state to have them say specifically-worded vows? I ask because often I don’t do traditional vows when the couple says their own. UNLESS: the couple also want traditional. Also: if it’s legally required, then you must. (There is no such requirement in my province.)

To answer your question: if your couple has decided to or they must say traditional vows, then the best place to do it is after their personal vows – yes. Then you can move on to either a ritual they’ve chosen (handfasting, sand mixing, etc.) or the ring exchange. ‘Make sense?

Great question, Paula! I exchange wedding rings right after vows IF the couple have not added a ritual of some sort. I find that if they want to do a sand mixing or unity candle lighting, that goes best between the vows and the rings. Handfasting goes best before the vows, and a blessing goes best after vows and rings. So I guess what I’m saying is: I do the rings right after the vows MOST of the time. Make sense?

Great question! Traditionally, the groom goes first for vows and rings!

Hi Nay – good question. For me, I always tell the couple (ahead of time at the rehearsal) that I’d like them to face each other and hold hands as soon as the bride gets down the aisle and they’re in front of me – yes, for the whole ceremony. It’s way more intimate than having their back to their friends and family or being widely separated. I recommend doing it that way!